Why Your Marriage Needs a Vacation

Does your marriage need a vacation?

No, not a vaction FROM your marriage

A vacation FOR your marriage.

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Have you ever felt like you and your spouse are running around so busy that you are merely coexisting?  That you share the same space, but don’t really connect with each other.

Trust me, you’re not alone.  Between work, kids, taking care of a house, and school and community obligations, it’s no wonder that we can find it difficult to find time to connect with each other.

So, go ahead and give yourself the green light to be a little self-indulgent and take a vacation with JUST the two of you.  That’s right – NO KIDS.

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Back when we first got married, my husband told me that growing up his parents always went away for at least a night every year to celebrate their anniversary and he wanted us to do the same.

Honestly, I thought he was a little nuts.  I mean, we were SO. IN. LOVE. Why would we need a special break since we were always just going to want to be together every waking moment anyways…

Yes, I was naive, but I also was smart enough to agree.  Now, 10 years and 4 kids later I am grateful that we made that a priority from the start.  We have yet to miss a year and I look forward to that time like crazy.

Here’s what a vacation can do for your marriage:

  1. Give you time to relax together and just enjoy having the two of you around.
  2. Give you time to evaluate where your relationship is at. Do you need more alone time or more time together?  Are you feeling loved and are you showing enough love in return?  This is a great relaxed opportunity to talk that out.
  3. TALK! How often do you just talk, and talk, and talk.  I don’t mean talking about the office or the kid’s soccer game.  I mean the kind of talks that you want to go on forever because they’re so good you couldn’t possibly want to end them to go to bed.  Talks where you share your hopes, dreams, fears, joys.  This is THAT TIME!
  4. Getting away from the kids is a great way to put your relationship with THEM in perspective. Let’s face it, even though we love our kids, the job of being a parent 24/7 is exhausting.  Spending some time away from the little ones will help you and your husband go back home refreshed and reset so you can both be better at this whole parenting gig you’ve signed up for.
  5. Keep you sane. Yes, life is stressful, and when things get tough, having something to look forward to can go a long way toward getting you through a rough patch.  Plan to get away and put it on the calendar as soon as you can so you can enjoy the anticipation that comes with an upcoming trip!

Do you and your partner take get aways together?  How has it helped your marriage?

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